Bibliography

We have been married since 1991. That gives us tremendous experience as a couple and we've learned a lot from life experience.However, we have also spent time immersed in the study of relationships and marriage. Here is a list of our material sources. We are continually learning more and adding to our reading. Some of what we have read has contradicted other things we have read. Not all the "experts" agree on everything.  In all cases, we measure the theories and conclusions by the Bible.

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Books

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Afterburn, S. & Martinkus, J.B.(2014) Worthy of her trust, Waterbrook

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Asscherick, D. & Schwirzer J. (2025) Try this at home: How to heal, help, and hone your marriage. Try this at home publishers.

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Bacchiocchi S. (1991) The marriage covenant. Biblical Perspectives

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Callaway, P. (2000) Parenting...don't try this at home: What I learned while my kids were raising me. Harvest House Publishers

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Cloud, H & Townsend, J. (1999) Boundaries in marriage, Zondervan

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Cloud, H. & Townsend, J.  (2000) Boundaries in dating: Making dating work. Zondervan

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Chapman, G. (2003) Covenant marriage: Building communication and intimacy. Broadman and Holman Publishers

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Chapman, G. (1992) The five love languages:How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate, Northfield Publishing

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Crabb, L. (1991) Men & women, enjoying the difference: Discover the keys to building strong male-female relationships. Harper

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Dagnan, C.S. (2009) Hot Chocolate for couples: Practical ways to sweeten your love life, Harvest House

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DiLorenzo, A. & DiLorenzo, T. (2021) The 6 pillars of intimacy: the secret to an extraordinary marriage. One Extraordinary Marriage

 

Downs, T., & Downs, J. (2003)The seven conflicts: resolving the most common disagreements in marriage. Moody Press

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Driscoll, G. & Driscoll, M. (2012) Real Marriage: The truth about sex, friendship & life together, Thomas Nelson

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Evans, J. (1994) Marriage in the rock, Majestic Media

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Feldhahn, S. & Kent, G. (2022) 14 steps to a happy marriage, The Incredible Journey

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Fredricks, R. & Fredricks, S. (2018) Fierce marriage, Baker Books

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Fredricks, R.G. (2023) How a husband speaks, Lion Press

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Gottman, J., & Silver, N. (2013)  What makes love last? How to build trust and avoid betrayal. Random House

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Gregoire, S.W. (2012) The good girl’s guide to great sex, Zondervan Books

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Gregoire, S.W., Lindenbach, R.G., & Sawatsky, J. (2021) The great sex rescue: The lies you’ve been taught and how to recover what God intended., Baker Books

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Haidt, J. (2024), The anxious generation: How the great rewiring of childhood is causing an epidemic of mental illness, Penguin Press

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​Harley, W. F. (2008). Love busters: Protecting your marriage from habits that destroy romantic love. Revell

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Harley, W.F. (1986) His needs, her needs: Affair proofing your marriage, Revell

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Harvey, D. (2007) When Sinners say "I do." : Discovering the power of the gospel for marriage. Shepard Press

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Hemfelt, R., Hemfelt S., Minrith, F., Minrith, M.A, Newman, B., & Newman, D. (1991) Passages of Marriage Thomas Nelson Publishers

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Haubeil, H. (2015) Steps to personal revival, Australian Publishing House

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Hudgens, J. (2023) House rules: 10 guidelines for christian homes, Jacob Hudgens

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Hunt, S. (1998) Heirs of the covenant: Leaving a legacy of faith for the next generation, Crossway Books

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Hohnberger, J. (2009). Irresistible: Revitalize and empower your marriage. Pacific Press

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Keller, T. (2011), The meaning of marriage; Facing the complexities of commitment with the wisdom of God. Dutton

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Kulkin, S. & Storey, D. (1995) Body & soul: A married couples guide to discovering our unique sexual personalities) Questar Publishing

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Leman, K. (2014) Have a happy family by Friday, Revell

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Leman, K. (1985) The birth order book: Why you are the way you are, Spire Books

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Lowery, F. (2002) Covenant marriage: Staying together for life.  Howard Publishing Company

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Owen, J. (2020). The mortification of sin. Tradlife Press

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Parker, J. (2002) Blueprints for marriage: building love for a lifetime. PneumaLife Publishers 

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Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. (2004) Love talk, Zondervan

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Phillips, F.H. (1997) What does she want from me anyway? Honest answers to questions men ask about women. Harper Collins

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Sax. L (2017) Why Gender Matters, Harmony Books

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Thomas, G. (2022) Making your marriage a fortress, Zondervan Books

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Thomas, G. (2014) A lifelong love: What if marriage is about more than just staying together?, Zondervan Books

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Thomas, G. (1996) Sacred Pathways. Zondervan Books

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Thomas, G. (2014) A lifelong love; What if marriage is more than just staying together? David Cook 

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Tibbits, D. (2006) Forgive to live: How forgiveness can save your life. Thomas Nelson Publishers

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Tripp, P.D. (2021) Marriage: 6 gospel commitments couples need to make, Crossway

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Tripp, P.D. (2010) What did you expect? Redeeming the realities of marriage. Crossway

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Tucker, M. (2007) Ten keys to a happy marriage, Relationship secrets from the book of Ruth. Pacific Press

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Warren, N.C. (2000) Catching the rhythm of love: Experience you way to a spectacular marriage. Thomas Nelson Publishers

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Weiss D. (2001) Intimacy; a 100-day guide to lasting relationships, Siloam

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White E.G. (1952) The Adventist home, Southern Publishing Association

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White E.G. (1954) Child guidance,  Southern Publishing Association

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Wilson, D. (1999) Fidelity: What it means to be a one woman man, Cannon Press

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Yerkovich K. & Yerkovich M. (2017) How we love, Random House  

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Video

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Chapman, G. (2005) The five love languages. DVD 4-part series

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Cunningham, T. & Smalley, G. (2009) From anger to intimacy, DVD 4-part series

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Eggerichs, E. (2004) Love and respect. DVD, 5-part series

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Evans, J. (1996) Marriage in the rock. DVD, 10-part series

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Gottman, J. (2018) Making marriage work-  45 min online lecture

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Grey, J. (2009) Venus on fire, mars on ice. DVD 3-part series

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Gungor, M. (2007) Laugh your way to a better marriage. DVD, 4-part series

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Harley, W.F. (2003) His needs her needs, DVD, 6-part series

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Harvey, D. (2014) When sinners say, I do, DVD 8-part series

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Leman, K. (2016) The vow, DVD 4-part series

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Moore, B., Smalley, G., Tacket, D., Thomas, G, & Trent, J. (2009) Focus on the marriage, DVD 5-part series

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Oliver, E & Oliver, W. (2009) Marriage in God’s hands. DVD 10-part series

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Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. (2005) I love you more. DVD, 6-part series

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Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. (2004) Making marriage work, DVD 4-part series.

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Ritsema, S. & Ritesma C. (2022) Raising the remnant, DVD 8- part series

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Smalley, G. (2006) I promise. DVD, 6-part series

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Smalley, G. (1986) Keys to a loving relationship. DVD, 3-part series

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Stanley, A. (2018) What happy couples know. DVD, 4-part series

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Thomas, G. (2016) Cherish. DVD, 6-part series

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Thomas, G. (2015) Sacred Marriage. DVD, 6-part series

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Tripp, P.D. (2014). What did you expect? Redeeming the realities of marriage. DVD -4-part series

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Tucker, G. & Tucker, M. (2014) Mad about marriage live. DVD 6-part series

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Podcasts

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DiLorenzo, A. & DiLorenzo, T. (2010- present) One extraordinary marriage podcast

 

Driscoll, G. & Driscoll, M.(2020-present) Real marriage podcast

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Kelley, B. & Kelley, M. (2019-present) Thriving marriage podcast

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Fredricks, R. & Fredricks, S. (2106- present) Fierce marriage podcast

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Willis, A. & Willis, D. (2019-present) The naked marriage podcast

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Live Seminars

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A Weekend to Remember- Family Live Seminar (1995)- Tampa, FL.

A Weekend to Remember- Family Live Seminar (1997)- Orlando, FL.

A Weekend to Remember- Family Live Seminar (2000)- Tampa, FL.

A Weekend to Remember- Family Live Seminar (2004)- Sun River, OR.

The DNA of Relationships- Gary Smalley (2004) Bellevue, WA

Les and Leslie Parrott, (2008) Wenatchee, WA

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